perksofbeingmel

Lately I’ve felt like I’ve been hearing too much of “Wake up early and get shit done” “Stop wasting time,” “Don’t wait, act now,” “Do more everyday to get closer to your dream!”

And while I think that there is a time and placed to get shit done, jump on opportunities and live life to the fullest…I also think there needs to be messages out there telling people that it’s okay to slow down. It’s okay to take more time, to enjoy the moment, to stop rushing around so much. Why do we have to be in a rush? I know life is short – but you don’t have to accomplish everything in one day, one month, one year. Hell, you don’t have to accomplish anything in a day if you don’t want to. How about just waking up, relaxing, doing something for yourself, being alive! Why can’t simple things be a goal?

I also think there is so much emphasis on being the best, being at the top, and doing something extraordinary. Well, that’s great if you’re a big dreamer and you accomplish big things in your life. But it’s also okay if you don’t. It’s okay if you’re not a big dreamer or have enormous goals. I’m so sick of mediocracy translating into being boring, not enough, or lazy. People can and are enough the way they are. Some people can only give what they’ve got, nothing more, nothing less. Not everyone is meant for extraordinary things. SO WHAT.

Being average is perfectly satisfying to me. Simply because I’m into keeping a low profile – I don’t need to make a huge spectacle of myself in any way. Sure, recognition in your career or life is great, but why isn’t there any celebration for just being happy with how your life is? I’ve “worked” or “dreamed” of exactly the low key life I’m living right now. Kyler has worked more in 6 years than most people do in a lifetime – and now we live a normal life. He has bigger dreams than me, and that’s great. I will continue to be with him every step of the way & contribute whatever he needs from me. And he is willing to do the same for me…if & when I come up with something to dream about! For now, it’s a Subaru and a dog training building.

I think what’s also missed is being realistic about goals and dreams. Stop shoving down my throat that I could go out and buy a Subaru in a month if I work harder or did more…fuck off and stop telling people what to do, have you tried that yet??

I think all great things, no matter how big or small, should be acquired in GOOD TIME. I am in no rush. And if I die tomorrow without ever owning a Subaru I will be A-Okay up in heaven where God will let me drive through the clouds in a brand new one!

I am not destined to be a world famous dog trainer – I’m not destined to have a giant company – I know that, and I LOVE that. I am so happy and content with how things are going for me. If things got better, or I got busier, GREAT. But if things stay consistent, that’s GREAT TOO!

I’ve known since I was little that I did not want to be well known. If I would have continued on training for the Junior Olympics, then continued on to compete in the Olympics, I already know I would be this huge spectacle. On TV, in the news, and famous. I’m so grateful to of had those opportunities, but they were not for me. I think God blessed me with the gift of being a great gymnast, but I think I fought him on it. I think I tried so hard near the end of my “career” to fight God (and my mom) to let me be free, he finally let me be who I wanted to be for him.

So yes, I agree you should 100% go after what you want and all that happy horse shit, but if you don’t have giant goals like making a million dollars, or building your own house, or WHATEVER – COOL! KEEP DOING YOU! And stop feeling bad if you don’t think your small goals are enough. Don’t feel less than if you don’t have huge aspirations. Don’t listen to people who say that you must do something noteworthy or extraordinary to be happy or feel included.

You can do WHATEVER you want!

What I will also encourage you to do is to be thankful. Be thankful for whatever part of life you’re in. Right now. Right now, this could be it! Create a life EVERYDAY that you would be thankful for. Sure, all your goals are attainable, but if they didn’t come true right here, right now, make sure your everyday life is one you are thankful and satisfied with. Does that make sense? Be thankful for every moment. Stop rushing through the moments and dashing through the calendar to reach days that may not even come. Focus on right now, be thankful for right now!

“Each morning when I awake, I experience again a supreme pleasure – that of being.”

– Salvador Dali